Have you ever had that one plant that just needed something different?
Maybe it needed a little more light, or you were gifted a cutting that forced you to finally set up a terrarium for humidity. If you’re picturing that plant right now, did bringing it through bring you joy? Did figuring out its quirks add something to your journey you didn’t know was missing?
For me, the answer is a resounding YES.
That plant isn’t a “problem” plant, nor is it a diva… well, okay, maybe a little bit until you figure out what it needs to thrive. I mean, when I look at my Alocasias, finding that perfect balance of “moist, but not wet” was such a headache. Then I tried the trending no-drainage method and BOOM—they’re thriving, and I’m officially leaving the 2-leaf club! It’s even inspired me to try it on my Calatheas and Anthuriums.
The Same Rules Apply to Us
I have four children—all very different, but all extensions of myself and their mom. They inherited our strengths, and yes, our special condition requirements to thrive. This is not just ok, this is perfect, their individuality is what gives them each that special trait they are meant to bring into their surroundings.
Growing up last century, the emphasis in my midwestern bubble was heavily on success through conformity. But when you force yourself into a predefined mold, you not only rob yourself of true authenticity—you rob everyone else of really knowing you, and the full potential of what you are meant to contribute.
… A succulent and a fern can reside in the same home, but to truly let them thrive, they both need their unique needs met. My children can live under one roof with different requirements, and my neighbors can live in the same town with different ideas on what an ideal life lived looks like.
How will I apply this today? By feeling secure enough in my own convictions that when I encounter contradictory opinions, I can step back and ask: maybe that’s just the environment they need to thrive.